Grateful / Confused

Ok this quote just blew my mind 

"You always think it's ungratefulness that makes people forget.. no its joy which makes people forget."  - Jagdish (aka sadhguru but I don't like him calling that as he's not been my sadhguru yet.)

If the other person is happy, and joyful and now has forgotten you, it's actually nice. It means that they are happy. The problem with which they came for you to solve has been solved. 

"Nobody is obligated to be in your life. Years of commitment and love can go up in smoke because someone decided they were done with you" - u/DarkManX437

Also, loved this. I think we often think that things will be the same forever, and get into this illusion or wonderland. But, it is the truth. You don't own anyone, nobody is obligated to be in your life. You cannot force anyone to be with you. 

Knowing self, and being with self is something that we don't really think about. I love that self-love is trendy these days. I had struggled with "so how can i love someone if I think that way" but the answer is pretty clear. Love yourself. Be love. Be one with love. So, it's inevitable that whoever you are with, whether it's your friends, family or loved ones, the love will flow through you. 

Have you ever noticed that, if someone is extremely sad, you can feel that sadness, when you talk to them, I think it'll be similar with love. If you are in love with yourself, like be love. I bet that'll flow right through you. 

Things change and it's the nature of things to change. A rose blooms, and falls down. Nature works on its own way. Things will never work out the way you think. I am guilty of this too, now that I think of it. It's been almost 7 months past my breakup, and I still think of her. I wish things were different. I don't necessary want her back, because now I think both of us have changed and have different priorities. But I wished that it wasn't like that? But at the same time know I have to live with this. It's a strange situation I must say. 

I don't know if others feel this way, maybe they don't say. Ok, I care. And if caring is being weak. I don't know man. Maybe I am weak. Sorry (my younger sister) who asked me not to write anything related to her haha. I just felt like it. I am not saying I miss her, I don't. I don't know what I miss. Maybe I had constructed this whole future together, I had this thinking that we'd make things work eventually, but it's just I felt like she just gave up too quickly. 

Maybe it was right thing that we broke up given it only took her a month to find someone else and few months to get married. I think about it. But at the same time, it was me who broke up. She wasn't supposed to wait for me for life. But, again when she broke up with me, I was there. I stuck around, we figured out the issues and worked on it. It just feels wrong, that she "moved on" in 3 weeks and set up to get married in such a small time. I would be fine if I didn't care and wasn't trying to talk to her. I did, but wasn't it both of our job to take care of this relationship. Isn't it like when i'm weak, you'll be there for me and vice versa? 

But again coming back to the point, she didn't really owe me anything. She's a different person. What does being in a relationship even mean? Like being married? I think I am finding it hard to grasp this concept that once you are in a committed relationship you should be committed but at the same time, nobody really owes you anything. So, what does being committed even mean. And why is there a need to be committed? 

But again how do I trust anyone ever again? This seems particularly difficult at the moment. 

Anyways, if you know the answer, comment below. Would love to hear various thoughts and perspectives.