Scratch Notes

 I was watching this YouTube video yesterday and took some notes. I’ll just post these, read if you feel like it. It’s advice given by this 83 year old woman. I particularly liked the first one. 

1. Do what is right , not which is easy. Whether it is with college, friends, family. Don't take the easy route. Maybe the easy road is the right road. Always think about taking the right road. We probably have had circumstances where we had to take the easy route. But, now try changing that. Soon, as you get older you might realize that you should take the right road. When husband got ill, she gave up the career. When she lost her husband, she was with them. The right road was to stay with them and raise them. It wasn't easy, but it was what she should've done. Always try to take the right road. 

2. When we are younger, we are full of dreams. Sometimes, they might be out of touch with reality. But, dreams are only dreams until you take action. Maybe it takes you a long time to realize that dream. It took her 50 years to realize her dreams of acting. But she never let go of the dream she had. The time frame might not be the one you hoped for, but you need to take action. 

3. Treat others with respect. Treat others with the way you want yourself to be treated. What you give out comes back. If you give out love, support kindness, all of those things will come back to you. 

4. Don't quit. If you fail, don't stop there. Get up off your knees and don't quit. Because if you quit, you'll never realize anything in life. Everything will just stop and fail. And you will wound up extremely unhappy. If you have a dream, a purpose, a goal, whatever it is that you want to do. Don't quit. Even if you planted a seed in the garden only for them to die. Keep planting. If you don't plant good seeds, you will never grow. A very few good things probably will happen to us. So try not to quit and that she thinks is something that encourages young people. things can be sometimes overwhelming, and we can give up. 

5. Listen to your gut instincts. Whenever you are wondering about something, whenever you meet someone, and you feel a vibe there negative or positive. How many times in your life an inner voice tells you something but you ignore them, and it turns out to be the wrong thing. Instincts are powerful. Listen to your instincts. 

6. Learn something everyday. You are never too young to be curious. Even if it's new way of tying your scarf, a new book, a new skill. Be curious about life, about the planet around you and try to be curious about your friends and whatever is happening with them. What you see on the surface is not what they are feeling. Anything in life, never stop learning. How many times can we help other people if we listen and ask them how they are feeling. 

7. Believe in yourself. Don't ever let outside static or other's opinion shape your own view of you. Because if you do that a lot of time you'll miss out on opportunities and your self worth will erode. 

8. Don't worry about what other people think. She probably spent 3/4 th of her life worried about what others thought about her life, her dress, marriage or anything. She was so concerned about her public image. Who cares if someone thinks you are fat. 

9. Diet, exercise and attitude. 

Speak up for your needs! Make your wants, needs or concerns known in an assertive not aggressive way. Don't depend on others to speak up for you. Act with integrity, live your values.