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Person Behind an Identity (Role)

 

Ok this is going to be very rough and might not be true. But I'll just write it down. 

Do we often act out of roles that we are given? Like I am someone's friend, co-worker, son, brother etc.. every time we talk to someone, do I talk as the person (role) that's supposed to talk? Like does this come inherently, that as I an elder person should behave a certain way around those a little (let's say 3,4 years ) younger than me. Or I should talk to my co-workers a certain way and about certain things. 

I think some of these might be a question of boundaries, and others ... are they what we are expected to do and we do that? Why do we do that though. Maybe identity is not the right word to express what I am trying to say. Like say, you are meeting someone for the first time, you both are acting as "strangers", and you talk a certain way compared to friends. I think that's normal .. and it's not always the case too, sometimes you connect with strangers in a very deep way that it feels like you've been friends for a while. 

The question that I am trying to un-cover is ... why do we do those things. The more I think about stuff, I feel like we all are the same, but we create these different sections / groups? Not the right word again, but like you know how people say I love this, and I am friends with these type of people. Maybe I have just not met enough people to make those ..... ok sorry I have no idea where I am going. 

This whole thought came to me when I realized we often act as a character or a role as I was saying. I don't know if "act" is a right word again. But, behave? is that the word? And it's appropriate too, like in a society I can't behave and talk about the same thing that I do with my closest friends with my boss. 

This is something to think about, isn't it?  Why are we talking such roles, and why can't everyone just behave the same way with everyone else? What's the thing that causes us to show this type of behavior? 

You would think that it'd just be weird to just be the same person with everyone else, but is it? Like if everyone did it, and expressed themselves fully it would be normal. But, why don't we do this... and why should we do what I am talking about? Well, I have no answers, it just came to my mind. 


- Yours Truly, 

- Handsome Charming Man

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