Few promises

Ok, so I’m in Ohio now. 

I’ve been hanging out with a lot of married people these days. You know you’ve started to become an adult when the parties end at 8:00 because the kids have school tomorrow morning and you have work to wake up to. 

Usually, we used to start partying at 8, and here we end partying at 8:00. 

I’ve noticed that a lot of married couple are tired of each other?! Like why are they not at the party with each other. Usually there’s a gang of ladies and then of guys each of them wishing that they had more time to themselves and complain about each other. They call you lucky that you don’t have kids and stuff like that yk. 

So, here’s a quick promises to myself. If I get married. Honestly, I don’t think I will be in a relationship ever again for a long time.

But let’s say magically.. I find miss perfect and let’s say I get married. 

1. I will never ever ever ever not make time for my significant other. 

2. There won’t be a single day I forget to tell her how much I love her. I think I’ve always done this and will continue doing this because honestly I don’t think I want to be in a relationship if I don’t feel that way about the person. 

3. I will never complain about raising kids. Never ever ever. Fuck, I’ll even do all the fucking work myself. I think it’s one of the reason that I want to save a lot of money fast so I can yk be there for my kids without feeling frustrated about raising them. ( on that note , I got into Amazon. I will write another blog post after I receive my offer letter which will have additional information about location and compensation and stuff like that) 

4. I will always be there for my kids . 100% of the time. 

5. I will make time amidst the busy-nesss (is that even a word?) of raising kids for my wife. Nothing will change for the most part. I’ll still take her on dates and plan trips for us. 

6. I will be there when it gets overwhelming at times and always remind her how lucky I am to have her and how much I love her. 

7. You won’t be hearing me complain about marriage or raising kids. Honestly, that’s a privilege and I will never forget that and take that for granted. If I have issues I will talk to my partner and not announce it to the world. 

8. Also I noticed a few guys were acting a little distant when they were with their wives while the wives would try to hug them and be close. Yeah we ain’t doing that either. I’m going to tell the whole fucking world that I love my wife. I might even put that on a bill board. Honestly

And you might think I am just saying that now but if you know me you know that I’ll be doing exactly this. 

Also I’ve realized how important it is to have a good partner who is chill and secure within themselves, independent and knows to how handle stuff. I don’t think perfect person exists but how a person behaves in amidst of a difficult situation is so fucking important. 

Also shoutout to my brother for giving so much credit for the work that bhauju does. And even a bigger shoutout to bhaju for everything that she does at house and for the kids. He seems to be so appreciative of all the work that she does at home. I feel a little sad that bhauju thinks that she is not doing anything while she is raising the kids. But she IS. I told her about it. Raising a kid is equal if not more important than being in a workforce working for corporations. I know things can be overwhelming and stuff like that but it truly is rewarding and I hope more women don't think they aren't contributing anything or doing anything...  and realize the importance and significance of the work they do. And honestly it's ok to be overwhelmed or even frustrated with everything. You don't have to be perfect, you just have to be loving. 

Your very own,

Handsome Charming Man.